Everyone has a story and if you've been with an abuser, you definitely have stories and lots of them. We can sort through your stories about what happened together parsing out the truth. If you're going to heal, it helps to know exactly what it's from. Abusers do an extraordinary job of getting us to believe we are the problem. Let's challenge this together and walk through what really happened to get to the truth.

The reason all of this feels so activating and frightening is your nervous system has gone into a fight, flight or freeze mode. The fourth mode, fawn, is a response to your primal response. It is difficult for victims of narcissistic abuse to heal while their nervous system is in an activated phase. In this session, we'll go over a treasure trove of techniques you can take with you to calm yourself immediately when triggered.

Now, that we've got some tools on board to address an agitated nervous system, let's talk about all that ruminating on the abuser. What if I had said this or that? Done this or that? All he was asking for was this. I mean was that really such a big deal? I should have just done it. This is a little trick your brain is playing on you, making your abuser right, telling you that you are the problem. Your brain means well. It's just confused and how could it not be after all of the gaslighting you've survived? Let's talk about the points your brain is making to you and address them one by one, so when the brain brings up these same points and memories ad nauseum, you'll be prepared to meet them with the truth.

We'll talk about what got you to these crossroads and what you were searching for when you embarked on this relationship. We'll talk about familiarity and what might've led you to this place. We’ll discuss if the abuser reminds you of anyone from your childhood and what messaging you may have gotten from your parents about relationship. You'll come away from our sessions empowered with a new perspective of why this has happened and what it could mean for you going forward.

We could try finding Nemo but I’d rather we find you instead. The abuser's specialty is creating an identity crisis in us, but this can lead to the discovery of who we really are - all of our wounded and functioning parts. Let's get to know you - all of you - in a safe, fun and exploratory environment.

Love. What is it? How do you get it and how do you give it in a way that feels safe? Rediscover the love you thought you found in the love-bombing stage. Oh yes, it's possible and even probable when we work together, crafting an actionable plan that calms your mind and uplifts your spirit on a routine basis.

We’ll discuss what kind of future you want to create and who you want to be going forward. We'll create a new story, one that's based in truth and reality, one that feeds your soul and enlivens your spirit, one that allows you to be the person you always wanted to be. (Optional - I offer a temperament test that can guide us on what your inborn strengths and growth areas are, how you're naturally inclined to get your needs met and how you can work with others to achieve meeting these needs.)

FInally, we'll go over what we went over to remind you of all the new tools you have, your goals and how to put these tools into action. We'll discuss what to do if you find yourself in the victinity of another abuser. How to initiate fluid boundaries that won't give you FOMO and live within those boundaries, safe and peace-filled in your own body wherever you go.

In my journey of healing, it took about 15 months to feel better on a regular basis after malignant narcissistic abuse. Of course, I didn’t have a coach like me helping me. That’s why I created her to help you. In hearing the stories of numerous abuse victims, 15 months is a fairly expedient recovery time, especially when you’re dealing with post-separation abuse or hoovering. The estimated average recovery time from this type of trauma is 3 years. All this to say, if you’re where you want to be after our sessions, I’m happy if you’re happy and I thank you for our time together. But, if you choose this discounted bonus session, we can discuss a future working relationship that gives you my consistent presence, empathic listening, loving accountability, experienced insight and ongoing support moving forward. If we made it this far together, I would be humbled to continue this journey with you.